Tuesday, August 24, 2010


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Interviewer: “What are the positive points about black women?
Rapper: Other than their big’ol asses? NOTHIN.”

Interviewer: “What are the negative points about black women?
Rapper: Except for their big’ol asses? EVERYTHING…………”

(The above was quoted by famous rapper during interview)

Black women are a source of great anxiety. To interact with them is like nothing else you’ll ever experience. They can raise your blood pressure from normal to life threatening within a matter of seconds. Imagine a brand of rubber band that was created without any elastic capacity; something that makes no sense; that was created only to annoy and frustrate. That is the black woman. They are attitude driven bottomless pits. There is no pleasing a black woman. To give them what they want is a waste of a man’s time. No matter what you do for them, no matter how much you better yourself, it is never enough to please them. Of all races of women, they are the most arrogant, conceited, and angry. There is no rhyme or reason to their anger. They are not angry like normal people; their anger festers from deep within. They are angry towards people who have done nothing to them. They are angry at everyone, for no reason. They are condescending towards everyone, including their own black men. They drive black men away with their constant vexing, then they speak ill of them when they see a white, latin, or asian woman on his arm. They call black men that date other races "sellouts", yet they never question the reason for his racial exodus. They are completely aloof to the fact that they themselves are the reason. To put it simply, black men get sick and tired of trying to please a race of women that cannot be pleased.

Like the quote at the beginning of this article conveys regarding black women; other than for their big asses, they are expendable. Let’s start with their fashion statements. Everything on most black women is fake. From the tops of their heads, to the bottom of their feet, they are devoid of authenticity. Their hair consists of one of the following: a weave, a wig, extensions, or braids. If black women were to stop buying these products, the “fake hair” business would collapse. This is a billion dollar a year business that is (for the most part) funded by black women. A prominent black magazine (that I cannot mention by name because I have not acquired the permission to use their statistics) conducted a survey on the percentage of black women in the U.S. that wear fake hair. The survey revealed that an astonishing 75% of black women don some form of fake hair. According to the black women who took part in the survey, the reason was that they could not grow their own hair to a length that they considered to be “luxurious”. It is no secret that black women are notorious for putting their hair through extreme methods of care. They use harmful chemicals and electronic heating devices that do an enormous amount of damage to their hair. As a result, their hair breaks off and becomes brittle. The result is a scalp full of short, unmanageable hair that they can’t do anything with, so they have to resort to “installing” faux hair, made from anything from synthetic materials, to the head off of another human, to the tail of a horse. They think that this makes them appear to be “beautiful”. The ironic part is that the vast majority of the hair looks comically fake on their heads. With many of the hair jobs, you can see the line where the fake hair was weaved into the real hair, or the fake hair is of a completely different grade than their real hair, or the hair is of a ridiculously long length, or a ridiculous color. These black women do this to their heads, and instead of looking like beautiful women, they end up looking like clowns. Another fake commodity that black women like to wear is jewelry. Many black women wear inappropriate amounts of fake jewelry. They wear “gold” earrings the size of frisbees, and we men are supposed to believe that the gold is real. It is obviously fake, and not even attractive. They wear fake gold rings on more than half of their fingers, ending up looking like fashionable brass knuckles. Why do you need a ring on eight of your 10 fingers? They wear gaudy, fake gold necklaces that are so long and thick that they drape down into the cleavage of their titties. They end up looking like they have enough “gold” draped on them to finance a small country, although none of it is real, at least not through and through. It’s either gold plated with a near microscopic thin layering of gold, or it’s a completely fake gold knockoff type of metal. Another thing that black women are proud of is their fake clothing, most of which comes from neighborhood swap meets. They buy “designer” clothing that is actually defective in nature because of some stitching error or whatnot, and ends up being sold by the designer company to third party vendors, the vast majority of which are swap meets. These black women buy these defective clothes and shoes in droves. They wear it with pride, as if they’re rich and feel that they can afford the best of the best. They brag about it to their friends by name of the designer, and their friends all coo over the sub par duds. Black women also like to wear fake nails, but they’re not fashionably fake, they’re talons. They walk around looking like “African American demons” with these fake nails that are long enough to dig trenches in dirt. A black woman digging a burrow could give any gopher a run for its money. Those ultra long nails aren’t sexy, they’re meretricious. Black women who sport these claws actually have to devise alternative methods to do things like use a pen, or wipe their anuses……....AND I’M NOT MAKING THAT UP. As far as I’m concerned, NO fashion statement is important enough that I have to readjust the way I depurate my anus. Over the past decade, the cream of the crop fake fashion statement has become black women that wear colored contact lenses [Black men, can I get an “amen” on that one?] Vanessa Williams is a black woman with actual blue eyes; an anomaly that blesses about 7% of the black [female] population. Black women, you need to understand; that is a rare occurrence; a genetic gift. Please stop buying them. You are making yourselves look like nigger vampires. Those color contacts don’t even appear close to being real. My personal favorite; a black woman is talking to you and she’s wearing her blue contacts, and one of them is slightly misaligned, so it looks as if one of her eyes is looking off in a different direction than the other. That is beyond embarrassing. I feel embarrassed for them. Sometimes, black women will even go so far as to wear contacts of different colors; a blue one and a green one. That is also a rare genetic condition called “heterochromia iridium”. Two celebrities that have this rare, beautiful genetic gift are actresses Kate Bosworth and Mila Kunis. Google them and look at their close up eye shots. They’re truly stunning. It’s an even rarer occurrence than black women being born with blue eyes, but not to a black woman. These envious black women say if they can’t be born with eyes of 2 colors, they’re going to buy them. Black women have incredibly low self esteem issues that are compensated for by buying fake versions of what they can’t afford, or can’t be born with. This is a level of low self esteem that originates from the very core of the human psyche. Sadly, many black women are unhappy about how they were born.

Next up is black women's condescending treatment of men. When it comes to dating, black women don’t want boyfriends, they want slaves. Black women do not believe in “equal” relationships. Black women believe (and are taught by their mothers) that a “good” man is a man that “does” for them. They’re not generally taught that they need to be good to their men in return. It’s only about what a man can do for them. For a black woman, the more the man can do for her, the more of a “man” he is. For you white people, when I use the word “do”, that means to provide for in black idiom. Black women are all about being provided for in a relationship. If you ask black women how they choose their men, this is the reply you’ll hear, “I ain’t fuckin with no nigga that can’t DO for me. I ain’t about no broke ass niggas. If he can’t do for me, then he need to get steppin”. In other words, to have a “relationship” with a black woman means that you have to spend all of your time and money proving for that woman and expect nothing in return, other than the occasional fuck once you’ve “provided” enough within a given time frame. Doesn’t that sound more like the duties of raising a child (minus the fucking part)? It does to me. In addition to all this, all black women do is complain about men. Nothing that a man does is ever enough to satisfy them. Black women don’t seem to see men as people; they see them as commodities or investments; creatures that can better their own financial statuses. They constantly belittle the male gender. Men are shit, assholes, dogs, pigs, insects, fuckers, punk asses and any other expletive you can think of. From a black woman’s perspective, men are less than human. They feel this way about black men, then they wonder why they see us walking down the street with a white, hispanic, or asian woman. They give us, and the woman with us scathing stares, then they’ll whisper to their friend, “Look at that sellout nigga with that white bitch on his arm. Fuck him, he ain’t no good anyway if he choose a white ho over a black woman”. No, quite the contrary. We’re quite wise to choose a white woman that respects us over some angry black woman that only wants to use us as a stepping stone, only to spit our carcass out after she’s done chewing us up into little bite size pieces. Every black woman thinks she is “Queen Cleopatra”, and all black men are to be her slave servants whose only purpose is to cater to her every whim. Queen Cleopatra is dead. She died a long time ago. None of you black women out there are her, so you need to stop acting like you are. We men are not on this planet for the sole purpose of serving you.

Black women are materialistic on a level that no other race or gender can compare with. Black women go to church and fake their religious convictions, but a black woman’s real God is MONEY. Nothing on this planet defines a black woman more than her quest for money and material possessions. A black woman judges everything in her life, from her men, to her own self worth by the money made and the objects owned. You can cut off a black woman’s arm and she will be upset. If you steal a black woman’s new car, she will be devastated. Dr. Martin Luther King stated that a person should be judged by the content of their character. That is not how black women make judgments. They judge [men] by how much money is in his bank account, what kind of car he drives, the designer clothes he wears, and the quality of his place of residence. That is a black woman’s “criteria” for choosing a man. How he treats her, or his own set of values is not as important to her as his financial status. When you see a black man with a white woman, it’s because he’s sick of how black women treat him. When you see a black woman with a white boy, it’s because she’s looking for a higher paycheck than she can get with the average black man. A black woman with a white boy is a basically a black woman that is prostituting herself out to that white boy, who is no doubt making more money than the average “brotha in the hood”. I don’t initially have a problem with black women for that; I don’t like the fact that they do that, then turn around and hypocritically condemn black men for dating other races of women. When I see a black woman with a white boy, I mentally celebrate it. I see it as one less headache a black man has to deal with. The humorous part is that I can visualize that black woman pimping that white boy; making him spend money on her all the time, only giving him pussy a couple of scheduled times a month, treating him like a little boy in public…….all kinds of things that black men have been dealing with for centuries, and are sick and tired of. So when I see a black woman with a white boy, I feel that white boy’s pain. There is an old rap song by the rap group “Wu Tang Clan” titled “C.R.E.A.M.” For you white people, the letters are an acronym for “Cash Rules Everything Around Me”. That is the black woman’s anthem song.

FACT: Race and gender wise, statistically, black women are the fattest humans on the planet. That means that out of all races and both genders, black women hold the title for the most overweight humans in the world. BREAK IT DOWN…….black women are fatter than all other races of women. Black women (per person) are fatter than black men. REASON…….the black culture consumes the highest amount of calories and unhealthy food of all races. The black race is the most sedentary of all races (we don’t exercise). THINK………..in most cultures, the female is the one who does the most cooking in the family environment. What we have in the black culture is the female providing their families with this fried, fat laden, unhealthy choice of foods. You have these black women that are literally preparing their entire race for future heart attacks. Black women provide their men [and themselves] with all these unhealthy food choices. Black women scoff at white people for the “nasty”, healthy food choices they make and they call white women “skinny bitches”. Well “soul sistas”, those “skinny bitches” are going to outlive you, and they also don’t look as gross as you in tight fitting clothes. Don’t get me wrong. For whatever reason, genetics guide the extra weight of most black women to their asses, hips, and thighs, which propagates a race of women that are known for big, round asses, but not all black women receive this genetic gift. Some black women are awarded the genetic “booby prize”. Some black women are fat as hogs all over their bodies, yet they wear clothes that allow you to see their cottage cheese dimples, their pear shaped asses, and tree trunk sized wobbling thighs. It’s sickening, and the ridiculous part is how they walk with their heeds high, thinking they’re cute. If a black woman has a big ass that looks good in tight clothes, that’s one thing. If a black woman is fat all over and dresses under the illusion that she is “slim and sexy”, then one of her friends needs to pull her to the side and give her a reality check.

Black women think that it is perfectly acceptable to be disrespectful towards their men in public, including yelling at them, pushing them, and slapping them, but if any of that is done to them by a man, then he is considered an abuser of women. Black women have absolutely no problem with going out on a date with a man, and being an embarrassment to herself, and to him. Black women love to be rude to restaurant staff. If they feel that they aren’t being “served” to the best of the waiter's / waitresses ability, they will yell at the person. They will accuse a [white] waiter of acting a certain way (cough, “racist”) just because the waiter didn’t smile at them as they were taking the order. They complain about the silverware being dirty even if it isn’t. By far, the most embarrassing thing that black women do when eating in public is eat an entire meal, then tell the waiter that they want a refund because the food wasn’t prepared to their satisfaction. What’s odd is that black women tend to only do these things at restaurants with white staff. You won’t see them doing it at a place where all the staff is black, because the black staff won't put up with that type of behavior. They already know all of the tricks. They will call the police on a raucous, non paying black female customer in a heartbeat. Black women know that at a white eating establishment, the white staff can be bullied because they’re afraid of getting sued under a claim of racial discrimination. The black men that are with these black women on these eating dates are the victims. They will bow their heads in shame while these black women act like this, then the black women will go off on the men because they're not defending the woman's ignorant tactics. I have been on more than my share of eating dates with black women who’ve acted like this at white eating establishments. The topping on the cake is how black women never tip, and they go off on a black man if he leaves a tip. Here is a true story. I took a black woman out on an eating date. She acted a fool the entire time, complaining about everything to the scared white waitress. When we finished eating, I put a tip on the table. The black woman I was with took the tip off the table and said, “Why you givin this extra money to these white people? They ain’t did nuthin to earn it”. She then put the tip in her purse and walked out of the place, leaving me standing there. Many of the other customers (most of whom were white) heard her comment and were looking at me standing there. They all had that same look on their faces, that look that showed their disdain for “niggers” and how “ignorant” all niggers are. I then pulled out another tip for the same amount, put it on the table, and left. Now, before all you bull headed black women say that was an “isolated” incident and that I just happened to be on a date with an “ignorant ho”, please tell me this. Tell me why any black man you talk to has had that same problem with oh, say about half of all black women they’ve dated. Why is it that every black man can describe incidents involving dating black women that acted like that? Are those all “isolated incidents”, or is there a level of ignorance in the black female culture that illustrates their constant need for dominance over everyone around them? Black women also like to disrespect their men in public. If a black man is doing or saying something that a black woman doesn't like, all of a sudden the black woman will start to raise her voice at the man, putting her finger in his face while “chicken necking”. Now, if the man were to do that to her, she would go off on him for “disrespecting her” in public, but for her to do that to him while they’re standing in line at a movie theater, or in line at a grocery store, or at a friend’s house is no big deal. From my point of view, if you’re a couple in public, and you’re disagreeing about something and it’s about to get “loud”, as a mature couple, you need to distance yourself from that public environment as quickly as possible before you start yelling at each other. Couples fight all the time, but that needs to be in private. Don’t disrespect your partner in the public eye for all the world to see. That’s tacky. As tacky as it is, its commonplace behavior for many black women, who commonly treat their men that way. As a rule (how my mother raised me), I don’t hit women. With that said, in all my relationships, the only women I’ve ever wanted to hit were black women. No other race of women I’ve dated has ever driven me to the point where I wanted to punch them in the face because their arrogant, asinine behavior.

FACT: Statistically, the number 1 most difficult type of citizen for law enforcement to deal with during a routine traffic stop is a black woman.…………..

I know a guy that is a cop. It is a widely known fact that if you work in law enforcement, you must have occasional “sensitivity training”. In a nutshell, it is a method of training that prepares officers for dealing with citizens in the LEAST confrontational way in any given situation. The training varies slightly from city to city and state to state, but the overall objective is the same. This particular officer I know showed me a form that is filled out by his dept. prior to the training, which is formulated in a survey type format. According to the answers that are given, the training revolves around the answers which are most ubiquitous. It also depends on which dept. you work in. The guy I know works in traffic enforcement, more commonly known as a "beat cop"; specifically, the police who fuck up your morning by stopping you on the way to work and giving you a ticket for something. Anyway, this cop told me that for many police departments, statistically, the number one most difficult [routine] traffic stop to have to deal with is a black woman. If you asked me, I would have guessed something like a drunk driver. Now remember I said “routine”. That is just a normal traffic stop where the worst that will happen is that you’d get a citation. This cop said that more traffic beat cops have “problems” in dealing with belligerent black women than any other type of stop. Just to think that black women have their very own category listed as a “problem” for police during traffic stops makes a black person embarrassed to be black. You have “drunk drivers”, “uninsured motorist” offenders, “suspended license” offenders, “unregistered vehicle” offenders, and “black women”. That is funny, and at the same time, pathetic. What is it that these black women are doing that has earned them this title? What can an entire race of women be doing on the roads and in public that warrants their own category for police to have to deal with? For starters, they are far more uncooperative with police than anyone else. They are defiant regarding their reason for being pulled over. In approximately 5% of instances, they refuse to sign the ticket, even though in the vast majority of the stops, they are just as guilty for the reasons they are pulled over as the rest of us. Black women have been known to get out of their vehicles during a routine traffic stop and literally wag their fingers in the officer’s face while screaming at them. If it comes to the point of an arrest, some black women have been known to incite physical confrontations with (male) officers in hopes that it will appear to passersby as an assault on the female by the officer. They've been known to yell at full volume and pull away from an officer that is trying to hand cuff them. They have been known to physically assault officers who are trying to handcuff them, by pulling away from the handcuffs and actually pushing the officer while screaming things like, “DON’T PUT YO HANDS ON ME! YOU DON’T GOT NO RIGHT TO PUT YO HANDS ON ME”! These are some of the types of issues that police experience when dealing with black female citizens. Those I just mentioned are routine traffic stops. That doesn’t even include the things they do to police that aren’t traffic related. I could write a book about that, but I figure you’ve all got the point. The point is, black women need to check themselves when the police pull them over. Stop acting like uncaged gorillas and accept your traffic fate like the rest of society has to. If you truly feel that you’ve been unjustly cited for a traffic offense, fine. Just sign the ticket and inform the officer that you will be appearing in court to dispute it. Actually, if you do it that way, you cause more damage to the officer's reputation by winning the case in court. You gain nothing by flailing around, yelling at full volume, and being defiant. The only thing that will come out of an experience like that (other than possible jail time for a “public nuisance” conviction) is that you will solidify the cop’s (racist) assumption that all black women are “female gorillas” that can’t be tamed.

Black women and sex don’t mix. The only black women that appear to be truly desirable during sex are black porn stars. That is an illusion created by the fact that they get paid to fuck. The way they pay their taxes is by being the best sex partner they can be. They are complete opposites of “regular” black women in society. In order to have sex with a black woman, the first mission you need to accomplish is find one that does not equate money with sex. That’s already about 50% of black women shaved off the top. Black women are notorious for using sex to get money. For many black women, sex has nothing to do with feeling good, or orgasms. It has everything to do with how much money the man will shell out, and how much pussy he will get in return. There are black women out there that actually manage the act of sex with their men under the implementation of this methodology. At a young age, they actually explain that to their female friends as the way to find a “good man”. They feel that this weeds out the “broke ass niggas” that most men are characterized as being. They feel that this is how sex is supposed to occur in relationships……”Pay for tha pussy”. The fact of the matter is that those aren’t “relationships”. Those are business arrangements between hookers and “johns”. At an early age, it is being instilled in black females' minds that they should sell sex. Any way you look at it, that’s prostitution. As adults, there are millions of black women that engage in various levels of prostitution, and mask it under the semblance of “dating”, and / or “relationship”. These black women are just as mentally maladjusted as “professional” prostitutes are. The truth is that no person (male or female) that has any level of self worth, or any level of (justifiable) intellect chooses a job where the job descriptions consists of sexual acts with others. There are million of young adults out there that have the drive and motivation to earn money in a more self respective manner. That’s why you have young adults in their early 20’s working at McDonalds while going to college, or raising kids. They may be making minimum wage, but they respect themselves. On the other side of the coin are these black women that don’t make a fifth of what a prostitute makes, and yet there they are, finding men who will give them a few dollars here and there in return for pussy a few times a month. That’s like comparing a drug kingpin pushing multiple kilos of cocaine a month to a crack head standing on the corner, selling a few 5 dollar rocks a day. To all you black women out there whoring yourselves for a few bucks from some dude you’re “in a relationship” with, you’re a disgrace to the female gender. You need to take some lessons from a faithful white, latin or asian woman. They know how to love their men and not use them. They don’t try to “wear the pants” in relationships and boss their men around. Out of all the times I’ve ever dated a white or latin woman, I’ve never had one to jump in my face and disrespect me. Sure, I’ve been in arguments with them, but the arguments never turned into full out displays of disrespect, like they commonly do with black women. I’ve never had white or latin women complain about the amount of money I gave them for something. I’ve never had white or latin women complain about the fact that I bought them roses, when I could have instead given them the money it cost to buy the roses. Black women = C.R.E.A.M.

Another thing about black women and sex is the lack of participation from them in the bed. Black women can be completely disconnected from the act of sex while engaged in it. I’ve seen them do things like repeatedly look at their watches while fucking, let out loud sighs in the middle of fucking (indicating boredom), refusing to do any positions but missionary because all other positions are too “slutty” for their taste, stopping in the middle of fucking to answer their ringing cell phone (that’s a huge problem with black women), and all kinds of other things during sex to indicate their boredom of the act. I used to be self conscious about this type of behavior from black women during fucking. One thing I knew was that penis size wasn’t an issue. I have an 8 inch penis, which isn’t huge, but it’s without a doubt above average. At one point, I thought it was my performance. That thought eventually came to end, as I noticed that every time I fucked a non black female, I was always complimented about my penis size and performance. Over time (I’ll say from my 20’s to my 30s), I slowly began to realize that it wasn’t about me; it was the fact that there are many black women out there who have a sexual condition known as being sexually "frigid". For many black women, their sex drives are little to none. With the white and latin women I dated, it was them who’d come to me for more penis insertion. I rarely had to ask a white or latin woman when the next time we were going to fuck was. I rarely had to call them for more pussy. All I had to do was sit around and wait, and eventually I’d get a call telling me to come over because it was “time” again. Fucking white and latin women is so much more enjoyable than fucking a black woman. With white and latin women, there is reciprocity. You thrust your hips, I thrust my hips back. You pump hard, I pump hard back. You suck my sick, I eat your pussy, you get on top, I get on top. White and latin women get as involved as their men do. Black women lay there like luggage until the man cums, then they either roll over and go to sleep, watch tv, or get dressed and leave. Historically, it has always been accused that many men treat women like that right after sex. Whoever invented that myth never fucked a black woman………

Another marathon blog. This puppy took 4 days to write and edit, and has seen almost a half a gallon of wine and about 4 or 5 pounds of various foods. To make a 4 day long story short; Black women have their heads so far up their "big'ol round asses" that they don’t realize they're driving their black men away. Black women treat their black men the same way that all black people used to be treated by slave masters……..like dirt. Black women, do you really think that if you were actually being “good” to black men that they would run off by the millions to have relationships with other races of women? For all the reasons you black women group up in your little cackling circles and condemn black men, you are wrong on all accounts. Final message to you black women......black men are leaving you for one reason and one reason only.........You provide us with no motivation to STAY.

[EPILOGUE] – I’ll beat all you angry black women reading this to the punch with what I have no doubt will be the ultimate backlash question, “What about your mother? She’s a black woman. Do you feel about her like how you described in your article?” I’m proud to say that I can answer that question with an emphatic NO. My mother is characterized by NONE of the above verbiage. She is, and always has been courteous and respectful to others, women AND men. Everything on her is REAL, including her hair and nails. She was never the type to have an attitude problem. She believes in helping other people, even if she gets nothing in return. My mother is a saint. She is a role model’s role model. She’s NOTHING like the contemporary ignorant, narcissistic, materialistic black women that populate today’s society. The reason I was even able to write this article is because I knew that at no point and time would I be defaming, or disrespecting my mother. My mother is a nearly extinct class of woman. As the saying goes, “They just don’t make’em like they used to”…….



  1. I work in a customer service profession where I deal with many different people and I always dread seeing a certain type of black woman approach me. She will act like I am suppose to know what she wants. Throw her information down on the counter instead of handing them to me, get mad at me if she doesn't have the information everyone else has to provide. One lady even went off on me because I wouldn't let her use my pen and she had a pen right in front of her. She wanted to write with the pen I had in my hand. Anyways, not all black women are like this and I never dread the men, but there is a certain kind of woman like the one you describe in your article that I just dread. Also there use to be a lady that lived across the street from me and she had this little boy and she would scream at him all the time so degrading and humiliating and he would just cry so loud. It was so heartbreaking to hear a woman talk to her child like that and see the hurt in his face and hear it in his voice. I have heard that a lot of black woman talk down to their children like this as it is how they were talked to and it was passed down from times of slavery. Anyways, I enjoyed your article.

  2. That was a deep article. I'm a black male, and I don't necessarily agree with everything, but you raised some very good points, and some depressing ones. Like the Anonymous person before me, I worked in fast food in high school/college, and unfortunately, most of the difficult (picky) customers were indeed black women, with ridiculous demands for how they wanted their meal prepared. Not to say other races didn't get picky at times, but I saw it a lot more with black women.

    Recently, I saw a family friend at church. She asked me "You haven't gone to the other side yet, have you (girls of other races, not men lol)?" She was very relieved when I said no, but it kinda bothered me. Is she noticing the same thing we have? She's a professor at an HBCU so maybe so. I've noticed that going in line with your point about never being satisfied, a lot of women will make a list of 25 requirements a man MUST have, and sometimes don't even bring anything to the table. 24 out of 25 is a deal-breaker, and if the woman does date a man with 24/25, it is considered "settling", and in most cases, she will jump ship the first chance she gets. If, in the rare event that a man has 25/25, then the woman will create a new list of requirements the man must have, all the while trying to convince herself this man is hiding SOMETHING. Then when her girlfriends and family (who like the guy) ask what happened, the woman will have the nerve to say he's not on her level then go into a long rant about why she can't find a "good man". Long story short, you say you want a Barack, but what are you doing to make sure you're a Michelle? Just sayin'.

    I've been blamed for stuff an ex-boyfriend did. Some women won't date you, even though they haven't bothered to try and know you. I lie to you not, a girl once told me she wouldn't date me because I'm a Cowboys fan and she's a Redskins fan. I've been blamed for the knucklehead ex and one girl even asked me "What are you lying to me about? I have a feeling you're lying about something." And I've been thrown into the same category as an ex because I didn't call/text her soon enough, so now I'm obviously neglecting her. I'm not trying to make myself sound perfect, but it gets frustrating to get blamed for what happened to you back in '03.

    I must say though that I've had my issues with all races, and that's probably the only reason I disagree a bit--I think society has taught women in general to treat honest, non-abusive men as boring nerds, that the good guy reigns supreme. Maybe I should chalk it up to meeting the wrong women, and need to figure within myself how to change that. Or maybe women like your mother are indeed rare, if not extinct...

    However, you did raise a lot of good points. And you're not the first or the last man to address this point. Chris Rock has plenty of times, I've seen it on blogs, have had this discussion when I was in college (at an HBCU of all places), and even my black female friends have noticed it, so before any of the black women here get on their soapbox and cuss you out, keep in mind that you're not the only brotha feeling like that. And although you can't blame all black women, the ones who do get so defensive maybe need to have a talk with their fellow women to see why they're losing black men to other races, and if it bothers them so much, what are they doing to help? Sorry to respond to your blog entry with another blog entry, but I had to get that off my chest too.

  3. As a black, 27-year-old woman, I have found so much pleasure and insight in reading this blog! I was on the verge of jumping around in agreement, shouting, "Yes,yes!" because I, too, know all too well what we black women do to our men. I agree with everything you say in this article. Most of my life I have been accused of acting 'white' simply because I don't wear 'designer' clothing or my hair is naturally mine or I am a bit soft-spoken and other traits that obviously to these women makes me 'not them.' I am a friendly person and treat everyone with respect...but black women give me the most attitude and the eye-rolling and the glares when I smile and say hello. And when I bring this up to my beloved black females, they call me a 'sell-out' or 'whitey' or perpetuating 'self-hatred' towards my own color.

    When I am in relationships, I try to act mindfully and not be a product of my environment by treating my man with love and kindness, but even then that isn't enough, because my black men have gotten so used to this wild behavior from other black women that they call me 'nerdy' or trying to 'act white.' Bottom line, I think that if we women become conscious of our own actions and call into question unhealthy behavioral patterns, we can create a more-adjusted generation of black men and women and heal the divide between us.

  4. Wow...What you failed to mention in your blog was this type of black woman is GHETTO...Period. Not all black women are ghetto. You do make some good points, but I was waiting for you to make the distinction, you did, but only for your mother. Don't condemn us all. Open your eyes...the non-ghetto black woman exists.

  5. OMFG!! Your blog brings me such joy joy joy. Great read,lol.. I am a hot latina, who loves black men,. (all shades) I love giving complete satisfaction. I may not be in love w you.. but i sure as fuck will make love to you. wink! I wl call you when its time to fuck. No bullshit calls in between. and you are so right whn syng~ You eat my pussy, I suck your cock. If you thrust, I thrust with you. You pump, I pump you baby. and r u kiddng me? It would be a complete waste of 'love time' if you stick to one position. Variety is a must,(like doggie). Shakng head/finger pointd>> And,Shame on you black women for cursing @ me & literally wantng to lay hands on me for treating & making "YOUR MEN" feel like the kings they are! Hey, look on the bright side, its never too late 2 break bad habits. But, you must first LISTEN, watch & learn from us delicate, sensitive & respectful women. On a much more serious note, there is nothing more beautiful to me than a Black man. P.S. I am not a hoe, groupie or any of that. I am a professional business woman. Hate me even more huh? I will admit to being just what the doctor ordered though 'A lady n the street but a freak n the bed! haha xoxo.

  6. i am totally speechless after reading this. i ABSOLUTELY LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! i commend you brotha for putting this out there!!! as a 23 y.o. black WIFE and mother of 3...it's disgusting to see the black women you've described here. i'm doing everything in my power to prevent my daughters from being the "GHETTO" (for lack of a better word) black BITCHES that i can't stand to look at in society. i can't wait for another blog entry.